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Is age really just a number? When dating, how much of a factor does age really play? How old is too old? How young is too young?
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What are your thoughts on sexting, or sending nude pictures via text messaging or the internet? Has the digital age given us too much freedom? What are your boundaries?
What are your thoughts on sexting, or sending nude pictures via text messaging or the internet? Has the digital age given us too much freedom? What are your boundaries?
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if ur kids are almost the same age as the person ur dating they r to young … but i say 10 – 15 yrs max either way anything over that is doing too much
I’m totally thinking that my max is 5-8 years older, but no more than 3-5 years younger. And 5 years younger is REALLY pushing it for me right now honestly! I also think it’s different for men and women.
I would say I wouldn’t date anyone over 10 yrs older than me… But I think its more of a maturity thing than it is an actual # thing… I def will not date a dude that is younger than me!
@ our age 5 yrs younger is a big difference but just think if ur a lot older it makes a difference that’s why i said 10yrs (the 15 was for men)
me personally, the oldest woman i would date is 3 years older or 3 years younger than me..but it all depends…i would never date anyone 10 years older than me….is age a number? it all depends on the person and their connection with that person
you guys need to think outside the box on this one at my current age the number would be much lower more like 5 yrs up of down … but later in life that number can expand
6 years is the max, but I don’t think dating younger should be allowed for women for men it is okay
I wonder why it’s more acceptable for men to date younger women than for women to date younger men. For instance, if I talk to…let’s say one of my girlfriends, and she says she’s met this nice guy, he has it all together, money is tight, clothes are tight, ride is tight, and he’s 10-15 years older with a little grey (you know – that Denzell sexy grey), and they are compatible, I’d be like cool. Girl go for it. But If she were 40 and he were between 25-30, same stuff applies: single, sexy, set… just young…she’s be called a cougar and I’d look at her like, really…. REALLY! I would automatically distrust him, and think she had lost her mind. I don’t know why that is.
I think it’s about compatability, shared life experiences, a commonality in moral and spritual beliefs and interests, and what people like.
I THINK AGE DOES PLAY A FACTOR IN RELATIONSHIPS, ME PERSONALLY I DON’T WANT TO DATE ANYONE THATS THE SAME AGE AS MY OLDER BROTHER, HE CAN BE OLDER THAN ME, JUST NOT THE SAME AGE AS MY BROTHER, WE’RE 8YEARS APART. THE ONLY REASON THIS IS A FACTOR TO ME IS BECAUSE I WANT TO HAVE SOMETHING TO RELATE TO. I DON’T WANT TO HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH MY MATE AND ASK HIM A QUESTION AS SIMPLE AS DO YOU REMEMBER THAT SONG BY MISSY BACK IN THE DAY, THAT WAS THE JOINT, AND THE GUY BE LIKE WHOSE MISSY? LIKE SERIOUSLY. I MEAN I THINK AGE DOESN’T ALWAYS HAVE TO PLAY A FACTOR, BUT WHEN IT COMES TO A POINT WHERE YOU ALL CAN’T RELATE TO EACH OTHER, THATS WHEN IT BECOMES A PROBLEM.
Age is a mind set. I’ve met some guys 10 years younger than me who were hella mature, just because of things they’d experienced in life. We limit ourselves too much and miss out on things. If you’re compatible, you’re compatible. Life is too short.
@Michelle, do you think that relatability is more about interests, and not age? Me personally, I don’t like hip-hop/R&B. So some of the stuff my friends listen to now, I’m like “whaaaaa”. I love adult alternative, old swing tunes, 80’s power ballads, classic motown, Elton John and The Beatles. I think that finding someone who can relate to that is purely an issue of taste and not age. I think we get interested in the things we get interested in, and if we have ourselves figured out, and are secure in ourselves, we can mix and mingle with whomever atttracts us, and stay secure in ourselves.
I think so many times we walk into reationships with all the things that a person HAS to have. “He’s gotta be 5′9, 140, built, brown hair, green eyes, has to love sports, and needs to listen to xy and z…otherwise we ain’t rollin’.” But the fun of relationships is getting to know the likes and dislikes of people, and creating a common bond based on that. I’m not saying there doesn’t have to be any similarity, I’m just saying we have to be more open minded. If you met a preppy white guy who was the exact same age as you, but wasn’t into urban culture in the early 90’s, guess what… He’s not gonna know the song either.
And to answer the question… I’d totally get with a guy in his 40’s. But that’s because of what I like and my personal experience.
Mina – I understand what you’re saying, but I also feel that age plays a factor, not just from an interest standpoint…but also from a life expereince standpoint. And I’m speaking generally here, not based on the exceptions to the rule, but the rule.
Generally speaking, when I meet a younger guy especially, there is an issue just off the premise that he hasn’t expereinced certain things that I’ve expereinced. And not that I’ve lived a hard life either, but just from a time standpoint…you live longer, you inevitable experience more. Is this ALWAYS the case? No…but more often than not. It’s like certain things younger people are into, I’m over because “been there done that”…the excitement is gone. So even when it comes to deciding what we do on a date or for fun, his idea of fun will usually be totally different from mine. Not to mention, I’m at a place in my life where I’m more settled and I know who I am. Most younger guys are still trying to figure that out.
Now, I agree with Nireb that the older you get, it becomes less of a factor and the range widens….but up until that point its a little shaky. Can it be done successfully…absolutely. There are just so many variables to consider and you have to be ready to take them all on.
Age is just a number but maturity runs farther than age… There is a big diference in maturity for men and women. Even if a guy 10-15 years younger thatn me has it together financially etc… has he lived at all? Is he mature? that is the question for me…
I guess my idea is that there can’t be a generality, because doing so closes the scope of possibility. For me, personally speaking, I wouldn’t disqualify based on a “range”. I agree, that life experiences plays a huge role in it, and yes, with generational differences, there are going to be some things to handle. I guess I’m just the kind of girl who’s up for the challenge.
If your single and over 30, rob it and take everything you can get!
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As I approach my thirties I see now why women in ther fourties used to hit on me when I was barely 21. The young girls those who are now legal have this sense of do whatever to please you. They live for the moment and not for the future. I mean lets be honest when we were there age did we really care about the economy, politics, careers, marriage, etc? All we cared about is what was going down that night and who was going to be there. I mean this does still apply to the select few that havent grown up yet but really that was the mindset. I remember the first year of my new job I was 23 fresh out of school working around women in there early to mid 30’s and 40’s. I was like the fresh meat of the department. Hounded on who I was dating what was I doing for the weekend and if I needed company. I think I provided hope for the ones entering mid life crisis which provided them the sense of they still had. Obviously me and my boys at work used to laugh at there desperate advances and would see how far they would go to get a young tenderoni. That was my nickname at work by the cougars for some reason. But as I dated more women my age I realized that the older ones were established made more money than my counterparts my age. And most times they footed the bill I didnt even have pull out my wallet. Young girls were looking for handouts older women were looking for acceptance. So to answer your question its where you are at in life which determines who or what you will date! I once read in a GQ magazine that when I reach my mid 30s I will be in a Zone where I can date women nearing 50 and I can still be appealing to women just turning 21. They call it the sweet zone. Well I’m 28 now and I think its already begun. I cant fight them off Im the cougars dream and the young girls real man! lol Got to love it!
I don’t think age is a problem, only older insecure woman who worry about what everybody else is going to think, seems to always have a problem with it…. Jus speaking from experience…
Plus I haven’t dating a woman my age since I was 18… My dates have always been older, and realize that my age had nothing to do with the man I am!!!
@Prince – you made some valid points, but I’d venture to say that older women hit on you youngin’s because older women are just more comfortable with themselves (this includes their body and sexuality) and they know who they are. The exude confidence, so they aren’t afraid of pursuing men. Whereas younger women are still finding themselves in those regards and are still on a “what can he do for me”.
And regardless of what anyone thinks, there’s something appealing to an older woman with having the power to seduce a younger man. At least, that’s what I heard
Most older women don’t take these relationships seriously, it’s something fun to do, so I think they just feel freer to let go and have fun. I think that’s appealing to the younger guy.
For me age is more than just a number. I wouldn’t date someone more than 5 years older than me. Cause there is alot of stuff I want to do in my life. And I want to experience it with someone that it’s new to them also. It’s like how u don’t want to go with someone to see a movie if they have already seen it. I have a girl I use to know getting married to someone 20 years older than her. I think it’s crazy. Cause he is close to that age where health problems are a concern.
MzA – I must agree…when you get older there is a certain thrill about the “power to seduce” a younger man….that’s when they become “boy toys”. It’s recreation for a lot of women and men too. I had a young guy to hit on me ( I won’t tell his age)….but it did cross my mind that I could teach him a thing or two…but I opted out cause I really don’t have the time or patience to teach right now. But the thought did cross my mind! LOL
lol@Tprissy…hmmmm?
Yeez – What can I say?? Just keepin it 100! Lol
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